Advice so nice you’ll read it twice
By Mary Presley
Dear Mary,
My ex-boyfriend wants to get back with me, but I’m really diggin this other dude. How can I let him down easy without being a complete [witch]?
Dear Friend,
It is very clear that your ex boyfriend was not ready to move on at the same time you were. He keeps holding on to you because he feels like there is something left in your relationship that he can fix. Clearly you do not agree.
The best way to tell your ex that you moved on is to show him. “Show rather than tell” should be your new goal. Flirt, text, or talk to other guys in front of him. While doing so, completely ignore your ex. When he texts you, do not text him back. Or tell him you’re busy or something. Trust me, the more distant you become, the more he will see that you do not need him anymore, and that he does not need you anymore.
On the other hand, what if your ex just wants to be friends with you again? I mean, didn’t you guys start off as friends in the beginning? Maybe, he realizes your relationship wasn’t worth your friendship.
Looking at your situation from a different perspective always helps see the other side of things. Instead of ignoring him, ask him what he wants from you. Then you can go from there. I hope my advice is helpful. If not, just remember: sometimes this is as good as it gets.
